Letter 44

WRITE ME FOR FREE ADVICE AT SHAY VILLERE ON X OR FACEBOOK

Dear Shay -

My fiancé' and I were happy. I had never been happier. Finally a man who Loved me and did not hit or be mean to me. I love him dearly. One morning I was on my way to work. He told me that he loved me, he kissed me, and said he would see me at lunch. Lunchtime came and I went home. To my surprise he had taken everything he owned. That has been 5 weeks ago. I need him. I have been praying to God and trying to communicate with our angels, mine and my boyfriend’s. I would Love for him to come home. I just want to hold him. I would never ask him why or where. Please God help me! I don't know what else to do!

There are many ingredients that go in to the making of a man. As a boy grows up, he acquires many habits and qualities. Some guys end up with more positive qualities than others and sometimes, even though a guy might have lots of great things inside of him, there might be one bad characteristic that overshadows all of the good ones. It seems to me that your ex-fiance' contained one of the qualities that can destroy a relationship. He was not able to tell the truth.

Let me assure you that in his mind there had been many problems for a very long time. He experienced negative aspects of your relationship that you never felt or even knew existed. When it came down to “crunch time”, he simply didn't have the power to muscle up and put in the effort it took to work things out. Know that if your man is not willing to step up and work, there is no reason to be with him in the first place.

Look at this event as a blessing in disguise. A man that does this to you is simply not worth being with. He lacks honesty as well as courage. No woman wants to be with a coward, and that's what he is.

I will send help. In the meantime, discuss things with your mom, I'm sure she has many pearls of wisdom regarding this situation.

Love and Prayers, Shay

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